Month: November 2021

I Am Not Damaged Goods

We single moms don’t have to buy into the popular narrative.

I’m not broken.
I’m not a victim.
I’m not damaged goods.

My life isn’t a pile of misery.

I don’t cry myself to sleep every night wishing I had a husband.

No, this isn’t what I had hoped for.

Yes, it’s hard.

Guess what? Everyone’s life has its own challenges. They’re not always as visible to the outside world as single motherhood is.

I take responsibility for my role in creating these circumstances – which is not the same as blaming myself or ignoring the role others played, by the way.

Taking responsibility empowers me to take control of my life and circumstances instead of being a victim to random events and other people.

I am creating a life that I love. Yes, even as a single mom, though there shouldn’t be a need for that disclaimer.

I am going after my goals and making dreams come true for myself and my son.

I’m cherishing these years as a single mom.

When the right person comes along, I’ll cherish my time in a relationship.

Whatever the universe throws at me, I’ll find a way to create a life worth cherishing.

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5 Benefits of Personalized Home Fitness Programs

It used to be that elite fitness trainers only served clients at gyms, and you had to pay heaps. Home programs were limited to watered-down cutesy videos geared toward people who weren’t serious enough to get to the gym.

Several years ago training began moving online, and with the pandemic, home programs exploded. Now, more elite trainers are providing personalized home programs than ever before, making advanced fitness training accessible to those who, for whatever reason, don’t have access to a gym or prefer to work out at home.

Here are some of the benefits of personalized home fitness programs to help you decide if trying one is the right move for you

1-Personalized home fitness programs are customized to your lifestyle

They can be adjusted for your schedule and circumstances, and even for your personality.

Whether you have a crazy work schedule or there’s nobody to watch the kids, sometimes even the most dedicated fitness fanatics can’t get to the gym. Sometimes, especially if you’re a parent, you don’t get long stretches of uninterrupted time. Maybe breaking your workouts into two or three chunks throughout the day works best, or doing intense sets with rest in between so you can multitask with young kids or answer calls for work.

On the other hand, maybe you prefer 2-hour workouts with a couple of rest days in between so you don’t have to work out every day.

Maybe you prefer to exercise outdoors. Maybe you live near a sandy beach or a mountain or a lake and can use them for workouts that others can’t do.

In any case, with home programs, your trainer can get more creative with the format of your regimen.

2-Personalized home fitness programs are customized for your fitness level.

Unlike generic workout videos or Googled regimens, when you work with a trainer they customize the program for your fitness level.

A quality trainer will take time to assess your current fitness level and exercise form, which can be done in a video session or by sending videos to your trainer.

They will then design a program with each exercise, intensity, and duration chosen deliberately for your body’s needs.

The best ones will have you send video samples, or assess you in a video session, to ensure that you are doing the exercises correctly. Besides being important for results, form is crucial for injury prevention.

3-Personalized home fitness programs are customized to your space.

Got a home gym? Awesome! Got a tiny apartment with neighbors that knock their broom on the ceiling every time you do burpees? That works too!

The best trainers know many ways to reach the same goal and can get creative with varying access to equipment and space. They can also help you leverage public spaces such as doing box jumps on benches, pull-ups in a playground, and resisted running on a sandy beach.

4-Personalized home fitness programs can put your trainer in your pocket.

Online trainers often offer support between sessions or throughout your time doing the regimen they crafted for you. The best learning often comes when you’re in the thick of it on your own, not when you’re in a session with your trainer. Being able to text your trainer for suggestions on what to eat at a wedding or get their feedback on a workout that feels wrong boosts your skills and results. Plus, they can keep you motivated when you’re tempted to fall off the wagon.

Online trainers vary widely in this regard though. Be sure to ask your trainer if they offer support between sessions, and if so, the nature of that support. Some welcome daily texts. Others limit you to an email per week or rarely respond.

5-With personalized home fitness programs you can access the perfect trainer for you from anywhere in the world, and even take your regimen on vacation.

Gone are the days of going to the gym and having a few generic trainers to choose from. Now you can find a trainer who specializes in getting the specific results you want specifically with people like you.

There are trainers for comic book nerds who are new to working out.

There are trainers for postmenopausal athletes who are suddenly putting on extra pounds.

There are trainers for those who are recovering from specific injuries or want to be able to do acrobatics or want to compete in powerlifting.

Personally, I train single moms going through tough times, who need creative regimens when they can’t get to a gym, they’re burnt out, and their kids interrupt them every 2 minutes. As you can imagine, most of my clients were failed by other trainers and programs because they couldn’t adjust their life to fit their regimens. Getting a regimen designed for their unique needs is a game-changer.

Being able to access a trainer from anywhere in the world also means you can continue your regimen when you’re traveling. Vacations or frequent business travel no longer have to throw you off your path.

A Warning

While there are great benefits to personalized home fitness programs, their quality varies greatly. Make sure your trainer will give you personal attention, either through calls or online support. They should be assessing you and giving you feedback on your workouts.

Unfortunately, there are many trainers who provide cookie-cutter programs and call them customized. They give their clients a list of workouts and then leave them alone for a month with little or no support. Customization is limited to their gender and general fitness level, not truly customized for each exercise and for the person’s life. Choose your trainer carefully.

Final Words

While going to the gym for an hour a day and working with a trainer in person is a great option, it’s no longer the only great option. Personalized home fitness programs allow those with a variety of needs and circumstances to get just as great results or better from home. There’s no right or wrong – it’s about which is best for you.

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How to Create the Perfect Meal Plan for Yourself

I wish I could say it’s discipline.

That’s what people have been thinking when they hear about the elimination diet I’m on – no gluten, soy, dairy, eggs, meat, poultry, citrus, added sugar, processed foods, or nightshade vegetables (peppers, tomatoes, potatoes, eggplant…).

“It’s good you have the discipline to do that.”

But I can’t credit discipline.

If you don’t already know, an elimination diet is when you eliminate certain types of foods to test for sensitivities to them. Often, many categories are eliminated at once. After a couple of weeks, if you notice a positive difference, you reintroduce the foods one at a time to determine which are causing symptoms.

I’m not doing this to get abs. I’m doing it because I noticed concerning symptoms and I want to nip them in the bud before they become a serious problem.

Of course, there is some discipline involved. Even everyday tasks like waking up for work when you want to stay in bed require some level of discipline.

However, the main factor is that I am trained in how to overcome obstacles to dietary changes and successfully make new habits stick. I knew exactly how to set myself up for success and make it feel as easy as possible.

Here’s what I did:

1) I gave myself a week to prepare. I figured out what I would eat, finished perishables in my house that didn’t conform to the diet, and ordered groceries.

2) I started planning from scratch. Starting with what you’re currently eating and trying to find substitutes is a sure way to end up feeling deprived. I see this mistake all the time. Sorry, blended bananas, avocado, and cacao nibs will never be ice cream, so no use pretending.

3) I identified all the foods I like that fit within the diet and built my meal plan from there. What fruits do I like? What non-nightshade veggies? What fish? What nuts, seeds, and nut/seed/butter? Gluten-free grains? Non-soy legumes? Preparing my meals from scratch makes it easy. Cutting up fruit or roasting fish and veggies while I work doesn’t take much time, and I don’t have to worry about unexpected ingredients.

At this point, if I didn’t already know plenty of foods and recipes I could use I would have given myself a couple more weeks to learn and experiment. Because I have to help clients with situations like this, I already knew how to make a diet like this work.

4) I decided what my meals would be for the first week and ordered groceries accordingly. I added nonperishable/frozen backup plans just in case. Looking around the house to see what I’m running out of would have kept me focused on things I can’t eat or dissatisfying substitutes for them. Plus, shopping that way wastes money and hurts the environment as half of it rots.

5) I leveraged ways to reduce my cravings and appetite. Too much to detail here, but I’ve posted about it before, or message me if you want me to go on a super nerdy rant 🤓

6) I avoided mindset traps:

I reminded myself that diets don’t continue to feel as hard as they feel in the first few days, while your body is adjusting, as long as you don’t slip up (then you start from zero).

-I reminded myself that it’s only for a few weeks, and then I’ll begin experimenting with reintroducing foods to see how I react.

  • Most importantly, I reminded myself that no matter the results I don’t actually have to do anything forever. If the difference I see isn’t worth it, I can go back to what I was eating before. Knowing will simply give me control over my symptoms instead of keeping me a victim to them.

Someone asked me what I’m actually eating since compared to a typical American diet it sounds like there are no foods in the world left to eat except lettuce. I’m actually doing great! Considering I was eating healthy, to begin with, it wasn’t that much of a transition. I’m simply eating certain foods more often while eliminating others.

  • All the fruits I would normally eat: apples, bananas, berries, kiwis, grapes, dates, raisins
  • Wild caught fish
  • Brown rice, wild rice, quinoa, gluten free oats, red lentil pasta (one of the few substitutes I enjoy as much as the original)
  • Beans, lentils, peanut butter, almond butter, flaxseeds, pumpkin seeds, flaxseed butter
  • Asparagus, greens, onions, squash, zucchini, green beans, mushrooms, carrots, radicchio, scallions, broccoli, cauliflower, radishes
  • Olive oil, coconut oil, coconut cream/milk, avocado oil, sea salt, fresh herbs, certain spices, tons of garlic
  • Favorite indulgence: cinnamon “cookie dough” made only with dates, pumpkin seeds, ground flaxseeds, gluten free oat flour, vanilla extract, and spices. Never would have guessed it wasn’t real if I didn’t know.

Of course, if these were the only foods I could eat for the rest of eternity it would be disappointing. But these are great foods! If I served these foods to guests over the course of a week they probably wouldn’t even notice it was part of a diet.

Yes, it takes some discipline. The hardest part is trying to have a social life when I can’t eat the foods most people want to eat. But the main reason I’ve been able to stick to it for the past 3 weeks is that I know tricks that make it easier.

Plus, now that I have more energy, am sleeping more deeply, can focus better, feel less stressed, and am dropping weight effortlessly while eating more calories (even though I can’t work out due to injuries), do I even want to go back to eating the way I was before?

I don’t have to decide now. I’ll choose when the time comes.

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