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Month: April 2022

You Should Believe in Yourself and Here’s Whyย 

YOU DON’T HAVE TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

But if you did believe you could do it, what would you do?

“It” is that thing you fantasize about. “It” is technically possible but feels impossible.

So I ask again if you did believe you could do it, what would you do?

There are two main possibilities.

  1. When you think through all of the details of what it would take to actually do it, you realize you don’t really want to. You just enjoy the fantasy, romanticized version of it in your head. You realize that you are actually on the right path for yourself, and this realization fills you with gratitude.
  2. You realize that if you actually believed you could do it, you would be taking steps to get it done.

This second possibility is the biggest reason people say that you won’t succeed if you don’t believe in yourself. If you believe you’re going to fail, why waste the time and energy? If you don’t believe in yourself, you probably won’t take action, and therefore not achieving “it” will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

However, let’s say you’re on board. You recognize that you have to believe in yourself. But you can’t bring yourself to actually feel confident in yourself. Maybe you’ve failed too many times in the past. Maybe you have other people telling you it’s too much of a long shot. In any case, you know it’s technically possible, but you don’t believe it will actually happen.

That’s ok! Simply go back to the question: “If you did believe it was possible, what would you do?”

And then do that.

Find out what others did to accomplish “it”.

Read autobiographies of those who were successful. Watch their interviews.

Figure out an action plan that you actually believe would get someone to that goal. Not you – just someone. Maybe, someone, you do believe in.

Then, follow that plan. It’s ok if you still don’t believe it will work, as long as you fake it. And fake it well. Imagine you are an actor in a play, and your character is whoever you think would absolutely crush this goal. Any time you’re executing the plan, do what they would do. Talk about how they would talk. Adopt their confident body language.

What would this person do when they faced setbacks? Would they see it as proof that “it” will never happen for them, or as a learning opportunity?

With enough practice, you’ll find that you start to actually become that person. You see the success of your efforts. Not always. Everyone fails sometimes. But you’ll also succeed sometimes.

As the evidence piles up, you’ll start to believe that maybe, just maybe, you actually can do it.

And maybe, in the end, you actually do. But even if not, you accomplish and grow so much more than you would have if you never had the courage to fake it.

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๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถโ€™๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ, ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ. ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜บ – ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ ๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ซ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜บ.

๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ 4 ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ข ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต. ๐˜๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ป๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ณ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ. ๐˜‹๐˜” “Stopped by Nothing” ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฒ๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜บ. โœ…

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Fast Weight-Loss Programs Are A Trap And Here’s Why

IT’S NOT A RACE.

So you got back in your pre-pregnancy jeans in 6 weeks.
Or lost 20lbs in 30days.
Or won first prize in a weight loss contest.

That takes hard work and a ton of discipline, and I applaud that.

But what difference does it make if it takes 30 days, or 3 months, or even a year if you get the same results (or better) and they last for decades to come?

It’s great that there are fast weight loss options out there for those who want them. But they’re not the best choice for most people.

You might already know these first few reasons, but just in case:

  1. They’re often unhealthy. If you want to lose weight fast, see my spoof video on The Coffee Diet – only coffee and kale allowed (plus my super expensive weight loss coffee creamer!). Clearly, not all things that are good for weight loss are good for your health.
  2. Much of the weight loss comes from water – even muscle sometimes – instead of fat.
  3. You typically crash your metabolism and gain it all right back. Plans for fast weight loss too often are not sustainable.

But there’s another BIG reason that these aren’t the best programs for most people.

If I wanted to design a one-size-fits-all program that will get pretty much anyone who was actually able to stick to its fast weight loss results, I’d get extra restrictive to make sure nobody is left out.

I’d keep it around 1000 calories.

I’d cut out everything that can cause inflammation or other adverse reactions so that people feel great having their unknown food sensitivities eliminated.

I’d provide very specific food lists and meal prep instructions to minimize user error.

Plus, I might as well require my own brand of shakes or supplements, because I don’t get paid when you shop at Whole Foods.

All of these restrictions aren’t necessary for each person, but since I’m not customizing programs for each person it’s the best way to ensure results.

It would be torturous to stick to this program, but if people didn’t follow it then it would be their fault they didn’t get results, not mine. The small percentage who actually manage to follow through would surely lose a ton of weight, and I’d get great testimonials and pics for my marketing materials before they gained it all back.

WHO WANTS TO BE IN A PROGRAM LIKE THIS???

If you ever tried one of these and didn’t stick to it for the rest of your life, it’s not your fault.

These programs give a false impression of what weight loss requires. I don’t blame people who look at these and conclude it’s not worth it.

A better method:

  1. Start by only eliminating foods known to be harmful to humans in general, such as processed foods, chemical additives, trans fats, and excess sugar.
  2. Naturally, reduce appetite and cravings.
  3. Based on health history and the body’s responses, adjust the diet as needed, never being more restrictive than necessary to achieve the desired results.
  4. Use supplements to help with any gaps experienced after adjusting diet as best as possible.

Any major lifestyle adjustment is challenging, but in the long term, this approach feels so good that falling off the wagon feels brutal. THAT’s how you make a lifestyle change sustainable and lose weight (or get healthierโ€ฆor gain muscleโ€ฆ reverse signs of aging) for the long term.

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๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถโ€™๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ, ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ. ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜บ – ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ ๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ซ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜บ.

๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ 4 ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ข ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต. ๐˜๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ป๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ณ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ. ๐˜‹๐˜” “Stopped by Nothing” ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฒ๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜บ. โœ…

Here’s one of my high-profile programs, feel free to check it out and then DM me about it!

Single Mom Fit to Thrive 30-Day Challenge.

Food Cravings: A Human’s Everyday Kryptonite

Let’s debunk the myth that if you give in to cravings it’s because you don’t have willpower or discipline. The inspirational moms I work with are some of the most disciplined people you can imagine, making miracles in impossible situations. How can a tiny piece of chocolate be their kryptonite?

There’s an element of cravings that most people miss. For many, it’s the main reason we give in to cravings even though we don’t want to.

If any of you took a Psych 101 class, you might remember learning about rewards, or “reinforcement”, and punishment.

Positive reinforcement
Negative reinforcement
Punishment

Most people think that negative reinforcement and punishment are the same things, but that’s not the case.

Positive reinforcement is when you get something pleasant for performing a certain behavior. You eat chocolate, it tastes good and reminds you of cherished childhood memories.

Punishment is when you get something unpleasant because you performed a certain behavior. Eat too much chocolate, and you feel sluggish and don’t fit into your clothes anymore.

Negative reinforcement is when you are rewarded by having something unpleasant removed. I’ll pause and let that sink in.

There’s a difference between enjoying chocolate and CRAVING chocolate. A craving is an intrusive, recurring thought, accompanied by agitation, that nags at us incessantly until we give in.

It’s like a speaker is blasting in your head “EAT THE DAMN CHOCOLATE!!!”, interrupting everything you try to do. And the speaker keeps screeching with that annoying feedback sound. It happens to be telling you to do something enjoyable, but wouldn’t you even do something unpleasant to get it to stop, even if the relief was temporary?

Stop trying to have the discipline to ignore the screeching speaker, and learn how to turn it down, or shut it off completely. Ahhh, doesn’t that feel better?

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๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถโ€™๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ, ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ. ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜บ – ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ ๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ซ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜บ.

๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ 4 ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ข ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต. ๐˜๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ป๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ณ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ๐˜บ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ. ๐˜‹๐˜” “Stopped by Nothing” ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฒ๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜บ. โœ…

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